Marriage after infidelity is a painful experience  

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Marriage after infidelity is a painful experience
Healing from infidelity is hard, painful process. Both the partners must be committed to repairing the damage. One of the greatest challenges people attempting to recover from marital infidelity experience is dealing with feelings of loneliness .
CJ: rudraksh 01, 30 Jan 2009 Views:4781 Comments:25

“IF HE/SHE cheats once, get help. If he/she cheats twice, get out.” Not a bad advice, really, because sometimes one can make a mistake and realise all that they stood to lose in choosing to cheat. When that happens, if the party which cheated realises this, makes amends and comes back to the relationship with total honesty that relationship could actually become stronger than it was before because they will realise just what they stood to lose and will do everything in their power not to lose it again.

Marriage can survive infidelity but it hurts. Healing from infidelity is hard, painful work; both the partners must be committed to repairing the damage. One of the greatest challenges people attempting to recover from marital infidelity experience is dealing with the feelings of loneliness and isolation. Every relationship has some good days and some bad days and that’s normal with marriage too. Only you can decide to heal and offer forgiveness, just make sure the partner is worth it. Marriage will be successful again after infidelity if both agree that they will try to make their marriage work. This is possible only if the cheated partner forgives and tries to forget the offence and the cheater mate promises not to cheat again and regrets or makes amends for the wrongdoing.

However, if the person cheats again, then it’s time to let go and move on.


Think hard and you will find the answer within. Deep down you could be dissatisfied with the marriage. Instead of insulting the institution of marriage as well as your partner by indulging in extra-marital affairs, get out of the marriage before it gets worse. Nothing can be worse in a marriage than cuckolding your partner by being unfaithful.

The lesson that one learns from infidelity is that there is difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul that loving doesn’t mean leaning and company doesn’t mean security. One accepts the fact that kisses aren’t contracts and presents aren’t promises and embraces defeat with a head up attitude, with the grace of a man or a woman, not the grief of a child. One learns to build all the roads on today because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans.

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